Joe, Cybergeggy, others: Very sorry to say that I don't have any added insight here either.
I've started an issue on the jQuery Media project page with some of your descriptions, please go there and describe your issues as clearly and with as much detail as possible. The issue tracker is where the developer(s) who made the module usually lurk and are so much more likely to have insight. Let me point you there:
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Joe, Cybergeggy, others: Very sorry to say that I don't have any added insight here either.
I've started an issue on the jQuery Media project page with some of your descriptions, please go there and describe your issues as clearly and with as much detail as possible. The issue tracker is where the developer(s) who made the module usually lurk and are so much more likely to have insight. Let me point you there:
JW FLV Player config issue